Most People Do Not Prefer a Solitary Life.

When we were children it was so easy to make new friends. You simply asked someone you liked, “will you be my friend”, and that was all there was to it. The result being, you either had made a new friend or you hadn’t. It didn’t matter. After a while, someone else would come along and you would fire the same question, and eventually, you booked a success. Sadly, as adults we are more judgemental of others, therefore it takes much longer to find new friends. But friends are very important in our lives…So the only thing to do is…go find some..!

How Do I Find New Friends..?

It’s not half as hard as you might think.  As a start, you have to get out of the house, people will not come knocking on your door and asking “will you be my friend”? Once you are out of the house, you’ll meet people here there and everywhere. Try to become a bit sociable, talk to people, smile at people, or try to help them. In case you pop into a cafe for a cuppa, ask whether you can join that person who is sitting there all by her or himself. Start a conversation, and you suddenly don’t feel so lonely anymore, neither will  the other person. However, this might not be your way of getting in touch with people. And that’s ok.

There Are So Many Other Ways

Consider your interests or hobbies, for instance.  Do you like singing, dancing, reading, painting, walking, music, playing an instrument, exercising? No matter what it is, you’ll find a club, group, or organisation that caters for it. That’s the best way to find friends. You already start off on the right foot, with a similar interest. That’s half the battle won. Now it’s up to you to see whether anybody in that interest group, comes close to your expectations. If they do, invite them for a drink, a cup of coffee or whatever you fancy. And you go from there. Simple…!

Check This Out..

https://www.meetup.com…..helps groups of people with shared interests. They plan events and facilitate off line group meetings in various localities around the world.  Click on the link above, type in the name of your city that’s closest to you, and up pops the meetup address in that city. Investigate it and Go for it, You’ll like it…!

And Don’t Forget The . . . Internet

This is the 21st century way of finding friends. Especially suitable for people who are shy, have little precious time, live very isolated, or whatsoever their reason might be. You have to research this for yourself via google. I could not possibly guide you here, as there are so many groups and websites all over the world that cater for this.

Having Friends is Very Important.

We need friends as much as we need air to breath. Humans are social creatures. Our lives depend on other humans. We are most comfortable when we are sharing strong emotions and stories with others. We want to be connected. It’s in our nature. Friends will fill that need. Most people do not prefer a solitary life. The ones that do, have to be respected also. Because it’s their choice. Maybe they are working very hard on something they believe in and are connected to that. They simply have no time for friends. Another example is a Hermit, they might live in total isolation, but they still have a connection, in this case, maybe with God or the Universe.

A Few Quotes:

“I get by with a little help from my friends.” -the beatles-

“A true friend is one who overlooks your failures and tolerates your success.” -doug larson-

“You’ve got a friend in me.” -toy story-

“Friends are medicine for a wounded heart, and vitamins for a hopeful soul.” -steve maraboli-

 “In my friend, I find a second self.” isabel norton



About the author

Tina Blauw

I am a 79-year-old female who started blogging to get my message out to as many women as possible. My main reason for writing is to make you as a women, of sixty and beyond, realise that you probably have another (40) years of living ahead of you. What are you going to do with those years? Some years ago I coined a phrase: “Always be Curious About Life…that Way You’ll Stay Right in It..!” My wish is to impart that into you. I live in outer Melbourne, Australia with my lovely husband whilst our daughter lives on the Gold Coast along with our 2 grown up grandchildren and baby great-grandson.

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